Navigate The Next Steps With Your Parent or Loved One
- Write down any concerns you have for your parent or family member. For example, you may be concerned about their ability to manage medications or keep up with household chores. Make a list of everything that concerns you but wait to put a plan together on your own. Instead, prepare to guide the conversation with questions that allow them to express their thoughts, plans and concerns.
- Schedule a time to talk and let them know your concerns ahead of time, so they can start to consider their perspective without feeling blindsided by the conversation. Before starting the conversation, also talk with any siblings or close family members so they feel involved and informed, even if they won’t be part of the initial discussion.
- Learn about different senior living options. Take the time to explore the various types of senior living options available. From independent living and in-home care to assisted living and continuing care, there are many choices. If you’re realistic about the amount of help your loved one truly needs, you’ll ensure they end up with the proper level of care.
- Have the conversation in person whenever possible. Choose at a time when everyone is rested and free from distractions. A neutral setting outside of the home can help ease tension. You may also consider including a trusted family friend, doctor, minister or attorney to help with the discussion.
- Ask questions and focus on language that is clear, supportive, non-confrontational and in line with your concerns for your parent or loved one. Maintain a respectful and empathetic demeanor, emphasizing your genuine care for their ideas about their future. Use direct language such as:
- “If you ever decided you would rather not live by yourself anymore, where would you want to live?”
- “What tasks and chores could you use help with?”
- “Have you considered what it would be like to be around other people your age in a retirement community?”
- Be a good listener. Let your parent or loved one respond before offering your opinion or advice. If the conversation becomes overly emotional or intense, take a break and resume it at a later time. Remember to use open body language – avoid crossing your arms or hunching your shoulders.
- Keep talking. These conversations may take time and that’s perfectly okay. As long as there isn’t a pressing health or safety concern, allow room for reflection and follow-up discussions. It’s all about finding a solution that feels right for everyone involved.
By initiating this conversation early, before a crisis arises, you can help ensure that your loved one’s preferences are understood and respected. Contact us if you’d like more information about The Crossings at Riverchase and how we might support your family’s plans for retirement living — we’re here to help.